Given that everyone has come together to celebrate your new milestone and bestow their blessings upon you, your wedding is the ideal chance to express how much you care and value your loved ones. Your heart may overflow with passion and appreciation on your wedding day. Still, expressing them effectively on the spot may be challenging, especially if you’re a bit drunk and terrified! Please spend some time writing your wedding speech, and practice giving it.
You may deliver your wedding speech as a couple or individually to the people in your life; be sure to work out who’s saying what and who’s going first ahead of time, so you don’t end up being repetitious.
You’ll want to thank and acknowledge the most significant individuals in your life, such as your parents, siblings, bridal party, and close friends, in your wedding speech, as well as thank them for their assistance with the wedding. It would help if you also thanked your guests for joining you in your celebration. You can close with a thank you and a toast to your new spouse after sharing a lovely tale about your journey as a couple.
Make a Joint Wedding Reception Speech
This one is becoming increasingly popular among our real wedding couples, and it’s a terrific alternative if you or your future spouse are anxious about public speaking. Taking the microphone with your other half instantly relaxes your visitors because there is less pressure to perform. The usual advice applies to the speech itself, except that in this situation, you get to divide your list of thank-yours in half! If you’re getting married, you’ve already had a lot of practice working as a team, and have gone through a lot of sample wedding speeches on the internet so we are confident you’ll come up with something fantastic!
Alter the Location
Wedding speeches are often presented from the top table at the reception supper, but in principle, you should be allowed to have them anywhere you like! The staircases of a castle or country homework very well, and outdoor speeches on a warm day are also lovely. Check with your venue to see whether the PA system and microphone can be set up in the desired place. If you’re having a small wedding of 50 guests or less, you might not need one, but your venue can advise you.
Consider using a table quiz format.
This one is undoubtedly out of the ordinary, but we’ve been intrigued by the notion since hearing of a couple who met at a table quiz and had quiz-themed wedding speeches! The best man MCed a brief table quiz with questions about the newlyweds, which was relatively straightforward. This is a wonderfully fun approach to breaking the ice and including your guests in the speeches, and it doesn’t take much work if a bridal party member organizes it.
You don’t have to turn into a stand-up comic overnight.
We’ve all been to weddings where everything is swimming until the speeches begin. The audience becomes quiet as one (or, God forbid, two) of the presenters begins firing off a speech nearly wholly made up of horrible jokes they discovered on the internet. These jokes are, at best, trite and predictable. They are, at worst, sexist and highly inappropriate. Speakers who do this must know that what they’ve written would go down like a lead balloon, so why do so many falls into this trap?
The explanation most likely rests in the idea that a wedding speech must be hilarious to be considered “excellent.” This, however, is not the case. Yes, amusing – truly funny – speeches are a terrific complement to any wedding day, but if you’re not naturally funny, now is not the time to try. Stick to a couple of amusing-but-true tales, or go for the sentimental option.
Remember You are not delivering an acceptance speech for an Oscar.
There are so many things to say in a wedding speech that you can’t afford to squander valuable minutes thanking everyone who deserves it. It’ll tire your guests and isn’t required. Yes, the bridesmaids, ushers, best man, and whoever paid for the wedding will expect to be acknowledged in your speeches. However, thanking people such as the wedding coordinator and florist is unnecessary and should be avoided. They’ll get thank you notes nonetheless. In the same line, make sure you don’t forget your “thank you” list!
Knowing your audience
Understand your auditorium. The wedding will undoubtedly include a diverse range of ethnicities and ages. Consider the diversity in worldviews while narrating a narrative and ensure it can be related to everyone. We advocate avoiding specialized terminology (such as slang or jargon) and inside jokes.
Address your intended audience. Don’t focus on yourself since it will just make you feel better. Concentrate on the message you want to deliver and maintain eye contact with only one person at a time. It will add to the intrigue and enchantment of your speech.
Create cue cards with your speech on them.
Because cue cards are smaller than an A4 page, writing your speech down on them is advantageous. The confidence they instill in you and your audience is the main benefit of using cue cards, though. You have prepared for the speech you are making in the eyes of the audience. From your viewpoint, having the cards there will serve as a psychological boost, reminding you that you are qualified to give this speech.
During the speech, you can feel trembling or even fear. But you mustn’t seem miserable, and you mustn’t feel miserable. A scowling speaker is hesitant and may even be out of their element. Standing in front of 50, 60, or 100 people and merely smiling back at them commands the respect of the entire room. It gives the audience confidence in your ability to deliver a good time by demonstrating that they’re in for a treat.
Take a big breath before speaking, and remember that everyone is rooting for you. It’s a happy event, and even if you think they’re a demanding audience, the room will be filled with love, and no one wants to see you mess up.